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10-24 Feb: Reconnect in the roommate phase (#7)
Alex Siega
February 10, 2025 • Read time: 5 minutes
In the months following my daughter’s birth, my husband and I spent nights in separate rooms: one with the baby, one trying to get a few hours of uninterrupted sleep. It was a privilege to have the space (literally and figuratively) to optimize our nights, but one thing we didn’t account for was the disconnect it’d create between us parents. A turning point: deciding to move the baby into her own room so both of us parents could be together in the same room again.
As Valentine’s Day approaches, you may be reflecting on your relationship with your partner postpartum. In the layers and layers of emotions surrounding that topic — I’m with you 🫂 — we wanted to highlight something concrete that fostered reconnection in the infamous postpartum “roommate phase” for us personally. We asked sleep consultant Joanne Lozman for signs and an action plan around moving your baby into their own room so you can decide whether and how to try it!
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👩⚕️ Dear Dr. Mom: We’re considering moving our baby into her own room. How should we approach it?
Everyone has their own take on baby sleep. Some co-sleep, some use a co-sleeper; some sleep train, others contact nap. For couples who choose to sleep beside their babies, sometimes your baby gets between you and your partner — literally 😆 So if you’re ready to reclaim some space by moving them into their own room, you may be wondering: Is my baby ready? How can I make the transition as smooth as possible for all involved?
There is no “one-size-fits-all” answer, but understanding the factors involved can help you make the best choice for both you and your baby.
If this resonates with you, read this week’s Dear Dr. Mom for perspective on this one possible sleep journey towards wellness for both parents and baby 😴
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🗓️ What’s happening around town
Looking for something fun to do with your little one? Here's a selection of upcoming activities and events for babies and toddlers.
West
Sun 16 Feb @ 14:00-17:00 — Oud West
Baby & toddler clothes, toys, and books for €2 or less — now just the afternoon! Come for the stuff, stay for the tacos 🌮😋
Spring Break at de Natuurkamer
18-20 Feb @ 12:00-16:00 — Noorderhof/Nieuw-West
Boat rides on the lake, pony rides, workshops, crafts, and more to celebrate Voorjaarsvakantie. Pre-register for the boat ride, otherwise drop in!
Opportunity: Community member Grazyna is organizing parents interested in a free baby massage workshop for babies under 7 months old. The morning session would be hosted by Dynamo before their Wachterlied spelinloop on Tuesday/Thursday. If you’re interested, reach out to her at [email protected]!
Center
Sun 16 Feb @ 12:00-16:00 (Every Sun) — Jordaan
Brunch with nannies (and cocktails!) in a fancy restaurant… Need I say more?
South
Fri 14 Feb @ 11:45 - 12:30 (Every Fri) — Buitenveldert
Parent & child gymnastics for babies 4-10 months old. Got a bigger kid? Click through to see the rest of Little Gym's offerings. 🤸🏽♀️
Online
Aware Parenting & Attachment Play
Thu 13 Feb @ 19:00-21:00
Learn how to deal with your child’s emotional outbursts and power struggles from coach Maria Bordallo. 50% off with code MAMAMARIA!
Want to share an event with our community? Email [email protected] to get in touch.
Until next time,
Alex from the Amsterdam Parent Project (APP)